2018 is finished…
And 2019 has just begun…
With the transition of one year to the next, many people make the innocent oversight of bringing their out-dated patterns with them (just like a tired but treasured piece of luggage).
What I’d like to share with you today, is that you don’t have to…
If you are ready to make a fresh start, here are 19 limiting behaviors to leave behind you for good…
1. Stop people pleasing.
Do you have a habit of trying to make other people feel better at your own expense? Does your kind nature leave you feeling bitter, twisted or resentful? Are you sick and tired of giving too much?
Well you are not alone… People pleasing is a behavioral pattern that affects some of the nicest people on the planet. (I should know, I used to be a chronic people pleaser myself 🙂
Make 2019 the year that you say no to others and finally put yourself first. When you do, you might find you have more love and energy left to give.
2. Quit punishing yourself.
Do you have the tendency to punish yourself for no good reason? Do you find yourself constantly struggling to keep up with your own impossible standards? Do you add things to your ‘to do list’ knowing full well you’ll never get around to them?
The antidote to ‘self punishment’ is ‘self care’. That’s right. You can turn your life around by simply extending liberal doses of kindness towards yourself.
Instead of focusing on what you haven’t achieved yet, take time to express gratitude and appreciation for your life’s blessings (both big and small).
And remember, the more we count our blessings, the more blessings we get to count…
3. Don’t compare yourself with others.
Do you ever log-in to social media and wonder why everyone else seems to be having such a good time? With their exciting careers, bikini bodies, designer homes, luxury holidays, rock star partners, cute children and adorable puppies (don’t worry, I‘m susceptible to ‘pooch envy’ myself!).
Does this ever leave you feeling a little ‘ho-hum’? Like you are not good enough? Or perhaps even a tad unworthy or undeserving?
Well listen up my friend it’s time to give yourself a break. You are doing just fine… This year we are going to celebrate all the amazing things that make you unique instead!
Yes that’s right. The time has come to dust off your pom-poms and become your own biggest cheerleader. Do this and watch your life transform!
4. Release creative blocks.
It’s not only writers that struggle with blocks. When our throat chakra gets stuck, all forms of self-expression can become dull, drab and dreary. Yawn!
This can affect our natural charisma, levels of self-confidence and our ability to stand up and be heard.
Let this be the year that you courageously commit to speaking your truth (even if feels a little uncomfortable at first).
Your emotions are an incredible gift. Rather than suppressing them, try expressing them instead. When you say what’s true for you, you start to tap into your natural power and flow.
5. Befriend your inner critic.
You know that voice inside your head that has an expert opinion on just about everything?
Yeah, the one that unfairly criticizes or demeans your every move… Yip, the one that goes ‘blah… blah… blah-dy blah…’ and just won’t shut up. Like ever!
Yes. That one. This voice is your inner critic. We all have one. And it can be a real pain in the rump whenever you attempt to leave your comfort zone and try something new…
What you may not know is that you can actually befriend this voice and turn it into something much more supportive, inspiring and empowering… (all it takes is a little practice).
6. Give up boring excuses.
If you have spent any amount of time in the past concocting excuses about why your dreams aren’t possible, then this one is for you.
You know the kind of excuses that I’m talking about…
- “I’m not flexible enough…”
- “I’m not fit enough…”
- “I’m not tall enough…”
- “I’m not pretty enough…”
- “I’m not smart enough…”
- “I’m not young enough…”
Firstly, excuses are like so 2018. Truly they are…
And secondly, you are enough just as you are…
You always have been…
7. Ignore other peoples’ opinions.
In this lifetime you are going to leave people hot, cold, warm or simply indifferent… There’s not a whole lot you can do about that…
People are always going to have their opinions, even bad ones… So leave them to it I say… And whilst you cannot control what someone else says or does, you do have complete control over how you let it affect you.
Whatever anyone says to you, just know that you can always smile and say, “Thank you for sharing your opinion with me”.
The thing that is going to make all the difference for you this year is not how other people feel about you, but how you feel about you.
Let all the naysayers and opinionistas fade into the background… While you keep doing the very best version of you…
8. Stop apologizing unnecessarily.
Are you one of those sweet people that apologizes for just about everything?
Even all the things that aren’t remotely your fault? Like the weather… “I’m sorry that it’s raining today…”
I mean come on… Really?
We are going to pull the curtain on this kind of thing in 2019.
Instead of saying “sorry…” I want you to try saying “thank you…”
For example, “sorry I’m late” becomes “thank you for your patience.”
9. Move beyond indecision.
Are you someone who struggles to make a decision? Even over the smallest things?
The key to overcoming indecisiveness is to accept the full consequences of your decisions, come what may.
Doing this will help you to step into your true power.
Now is the perfect time to say ‘sayonara’ to indecision (Sayonara is Japanese for goodbye or good riddance if you are in a particularly bad mood…).
10. Eliminate fake foods.
Eating fake foods creates fake energy. Sure, they might give you a jolt of energy in the short-term but will ultimately steal your life force over the long-term…
The alternative is to eat real foods instead. These are unprocessed foods grown in nature that your body can easily recognize, digest and assimilate.
In my first book ‘Losing Weight is a Healing Journey’, I share how I used ‘substitution not deprivation’ to transform my health and lose over 60 pounds naturally in the process.
Nature has so many delicious and healthy foods for us to savor. All you need to do is get about it!
11. Substitute artificial flavors, colors and sweeteners.
We’ve just explored replacing fake foods with real foods. So we might as well tackle artificial flavors, colors and sweeteners as well…
On my healing journey, I learnt the hard way about the damage that sugar and artificial food additives can do.
To rebuild my health, I started paying close attention to food labels. If a product contained an ingredient that I couldn’t pronounce I wouldn’t eat it. As I knew there was a good chance that it was artificially created in a laboratory.
This year you can level-up your health by substituting artificial ingredients for natural alternatives instead.
12. Reorganize chaotic mornings.
Do you find that your mornings don’t run as smoothly as you would like?
One way to change this is to intentionally create your own morning routine.
Search online. Try different things. Find a routine that works for you. This is particularly important if you are not a natural ‘morning person’.
I find that journaling in the morning sets me up for a great day. Particularly when I focus upon what I am grateful for.
You know you have found a good morning routine for yourself when you wake up feeling refreshed and excited about starting the day.
13. Clear your clutter.
Clutter refers to anything you don’t use or love. It includes all the unnecessary excess in our lives.
Clutter tends to gravitate towards dark voids like attics, basements, wardrobes, cupboards, fridges, garages, glove boxes and drawers. Think of these spaces like mini black holes sucking everything into an abyss…
To start clearing your clutter, simply choose an area you feel inspired to get sorted. Such as your clothes, books, paperwork or even your inbox. Classify items into two piles:
- Things to keep
- Things to discard.
As you release the past, repeat the mantra “It’s safe to let go”. Do this and you will feel much lighter and organized in no time.
14. Reduce stress.
Modern living is filled with Stress (with a capital S).
And of course we all know that there are many unhealthy coping strategies. Such as emotional eating, binge drinking and mindless shopping.
If your addictions are no longer giving you the high you crave, it might be time to consider natural ways to counter-balance your stress levels instead.
Gentle movement practices such as yoga and meditation are effective ways to reduce stress naturally.
15. Prioritize your needs.
Have you been feeling disconnected from your dreams, intuition and even your true self. Does everything else seem to be getting the best of your attention, leaving nothing for you?
Life can be demanding. No doubt about it.
Exhausting jobs, daily commutes and nagging bills appear to be part of the never-ending monthly grind. Add family and relationship commitments in on top of this and we’ve got a miraculous juggling act on our hands!
But what about saving a little time and attention just for you?
You may find a singing, dancing or drawing class could be just the tonic you need to reconnect back to yourself.
16. Stop trying to fit in.
It makes sense, biologically speaking, that we should try and fit in…
When we were back living in caves, being ousted by the tribe would most likely end in death… And not a pretty one either I might add!
Today we have much more freedom to explore our true natures. And even to choose the tribes we feel most connected and aligned with.
This year seek out friendships that give you the support, space and freedom to be true to yourself.
17. Replace “I can’t…”
Are you tired of hearing yourself utter the words “I can’t…”?
If you accept “I can’t…” as your truth, it will suppress your inner resourcefulness and hold you back from achieving your full potential.
It’s like placing a restraining order on the realization of your dreams.
Save yourself a little energy… Drop the ‘apostrophe’ and the ‘t’ and say “I can…” instead.
I guarantee this simple adjustment will make all the difference for you this year…
18. Cease mindless scrolling online.
Did you know that the average adult spends three hours a day on their phones? Imagine what you could do with all that time instead…
This year say ‘no’ to mindless scrolling. Make a stand for your greatness.
Dedicate your time and attention towards the realization of your 2019 goals and dreams instead…
19. Focus on ‘progress not perfection’.
It has been said that, “a journey of a thousand miles, begins with the first step”.
Upgrading your life is very much a journey of progress not perfection.
Just know that simply by reading this article today you have already taken your first step.
So, even though you may feel that your dreams for 2019 are still a long way off, just keep taking baby steps towards them. And, by December 2019, you can celebrate all your great progress!
And now, it’s over to you…
What limitations would you like to release this year?
Please do let me know in the comments below…
From my heart to yours,
Love Katrina xo